Heart of a ViZionary

When you from a different world, been here before, or a head of your time…You see life in a different light. I always been one to preach strength, especially in relationships.

Had a convo today about cheating & promiscuity.

PRE RELATIONSHIP: Its crazy how men and women wanna be with someone but they dont give them their all in the beginning because they are afraid they will look stupid. Point is, I never saw half a worm on a hook to catch a fish. So the girl (from a man’s perspective) still talks to a few guys on the side just in case the one she really likes doesnt bite the bullet. Vice Versa. When she doesnt know that if he is a good strong man, he sees her actions unattractive and weak. Because he knows that the insecurity subconsciously is the result of her “claimed” conscious ACTION. Therefore, she wouldnt be the one regardless. Unless of course he tells her to do her thing and he wont judge her for it. Vice Versa.

Me personally for all the women that have tried to holla and still do them on the low or in the open, I never bit the bullet on them. And never will. Its a hidden strength in the women that go all out for what they want even if it doesnt turn out right vs. the woman that keep saftey nets around.

RELATIONSHIP: Men/women who still flirt with others. Like attention. Or mindset gets swayed because of the party that was popping last night forgot what was real. And lived the fairytale for a min. While the next man/girl knew how to dance and shake…Her/his conversation ability is ASS. Me personally im not really with my girl dancing on another dude at a party. Real men care lol. And my boys would look at her like dam Sin she went in at the party lol. Yea…thats a no go lol.

Spirituality, Mental, Physical strength lacking the most because they live the chill laid back life. Cant debate or argue and run when a serious conversation occurs. Maybe a week of the relationship, a month, or a year was all bad….Now for the guy/girl who supposedly “found the one” at one point is uttering “maybe we not meant to be together.” Tongue cant serve two masters.

POST RELATIONSHIP: Now after they do them and realize that the fake was never real they wanna come back. Some of them learn some of them dont. But almost all never realize that the problem was never the other person cheating or flirting with others…..the problem was their discipline all across the board, their lack of a relationship with God, their pride, and the list goes on…..

From the beginning they kept people around, in the relationship those same people are the downfall of the relationship in trying times…because his/her focus isnt 100% on the relationship…and in the end they will never be able to fully committ.

Learning the lesson doesnt mean they fixed the problem…it just means dont get caught or it serves as a delay till the next time.

Im not a scholar on this or anything….Tell me what you think.

When you from a different world, been here before, or a head of your time…You see life in a different light. I always been one to preach strength, especially in relationships.

Had a convo today about cheating & promiscuity.

PRE RELATIONSHIP: Its crazy how men and women wanna be with someone but they dont give them their all in the beginning because they are afraid they will look stupid. Point is, I never saw half a worm on a hook to catch a fish. So the girl (from a man’s perspective) still talks to a few guys on the side just in case the one she really likes doesnt bite the bullet. Vice Versa. When she doesnt know that if he is a good strong man, he sees her actions unattractive and weak. Because he knows that the insecurity subconsciously is the result of her “claimed” conscious ACTION. Therefore, she wouldnt be the one regardless. Unless of course he tells her to do her thing and he wont judge her for it. Vice Versa.

Me personally for all the women that have tried to holla and still do them on the low or in the open, I never bit the bullet on them. And never will. Its a hidden strength in the women that go all out for what they want even if it doesnt turn out right vs. the woman that keep saftey nets around.

RELATIONSHIP: Men/women who still flirt with others. Like attention. Or mindset gets swayed because of the party that was popping last night forgot what was real. And lived the fairytale for a min. While the next man/girl knew how to dance and shake…Her/his conversation ability is ASS. Me personally im not really with my girl dancing on another dude at a party. Real men care lol. And my boys would look at her like dam Sin she went in at the party lol. Yea…thats a no go lol.

Spirituality, Mental, Physical strength lacking the most because they live the chill laid back life. Cant debate or argue and run when a serious conversation occurs. Maybe a week of the relationship, a month, or a year was all bad….Now for the guy/girl who supposedly “found the one” at one point is uttering “maybe we not meant to be together.” Tongue cant serve two masters.

POST RELATIONSHIP: Now after they do them and realize that the fake was never real they wanna come back. Some of them learn some of them dont. But almost all never realize that the problem was never the other person cheating or flirting with others…..the problem was their discipline all across the board, their lack of a relationship with God, their pride, and the list goes on…..

From the beginning they kept people around, in the relationship those same people are the downfall of the relationship in trying times…because his/her focus isnt 100% on the relationship…and in the end they will never be able to fully committ.

Learning the lesson doesnt mean they fixed the problem…it just means dont get caught or it serves as a delay till the next time.

Im not a scholar on this or anything….Tell me what you think.

I think first you have to set the boundaries and regulations of Love for yourself. If you do not have discipline and self control all of which takes hardwork…You will find yourself being the girl or the guy texting ya spouse that you love them while you are flirting with the person standing next to you. Or finding your self head over heels for the person that dances with you in the club, gets ya number, and shows you late night attention while ya bu is sleep.  

Love of self is the main source (second to Love of God) because it can only come from inside of you. Through personal experience I have found love to be a SPIRITUAL thing that is expressed outwardly. I have found through my own eyes that people who haven’t searched for spiritual connections, have problems with love especially in the beginning of their lives and in the beginning of relationships. IE…”Women being SEXUALLY SIMPLE, BUT EMOTIONALLY COMPLICATED…I think you would agree to teach your daughters for it to be the other way around. And once they are content with someone that they “love”, love is limited without them knowing it. Both parties refuse to submit to one another. The man because he expects to get submitted to without reciprocating. And the woman because she has a fear of looking weak. FAITH and LOVE come hand in hand. Take care of yourself, do you, do right, do good….because you can only get ya self to heaven by yourself no matter who you are married to….TD Jakes or Lil Wayne…..Nicki Minaj or Michelle Obama. Be a good person no matter what…Your life depends on it.

I think LOVE is BLACK and WHITE…either you do LOVE and your actions are clear.

BUT they make it where: You are confused and your actions are confusing even to you. Or limited and there for your love is limited. But why give LOVE the characteristics of confusing and limited. NOOOOOO! For those of us who are strong enough, blessed enough, passionate enough or intellectual enough tocontrol this spiritual intensity we have to take the definition back to the root. Sacrifical Love…Greater hath no man then this! To lay down his/her life for his brothers and sisters…ie Jesus!

One thing I have learned reading the BIBLE is that although you may not believe in it. AT LEAST read it like a book…It has every situatuion of life that you can possibly think of. Murder, hate, backstabbers, slavery, poverty, health, war, how to lead, pray, rest, care for others, turn the other cheek, as well as how to LOVE. And come up with opinions for your self. You dont have to be religious (WHICH I WILL NEVER BE) but you can be SPIRITUAL ;-), simpily like to read, or have an interest in life from other perspectives. Bottom line is the BIBLE was made for people with problems….ie the hood, the slums or just simpily people with problems….black people got this thing that we think we know everything whether we on the SPIRITUAL SIDE, HISTORICAL SIDE, OR SCIENTIFIC SIDE…we tend to believe what ever we hear from our parents or whoever has a profound title…but bottom line is that they have no power that you dont have whether it be the prophet in the pulpit or the slave in the fields EVERY man and woman has their own mind…Realize that the works of God cant abuse its own power, but man can abuse their own power and discourage other men from what has profited them…Its funny because we are the most messed up and the least spiritual at least in terms of religion. Draw a correlation between the two….NO??? ok…..I think all will agree with me when I say be a master of them ALL and come up with your own ideas.

Which reminds me that words only go so far…….So you already know a brother is going to work hard to build a boarding & day highschool for black men…..with ward of the state programs, 90% AP classes, Military education, Relationship with God classes, how to be a good man classes, and how to change the world classes.

All steming from LOVE! Holla at me its a movement!

Just Take the definition for what it is.

1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

-1 Corinthians 13

Mah-mi. She bout 5’5. Chin always parallel to the ground. Chest always up. Back ALWAYS str8 even when she leans back SMH. 6th degree BLACK BELT. 8x WORLD CHAMPION. or something like that I honestly lost track. MARTIAL ARTS INSTRUCTOR. Gave me & my brother a few punches back in the day. CFO & ORDAINED MINISTER. But her catch is that she is a praying black woman. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS if you experienced that b4. Prayed for me & my brother years before we were born and still prays now. Everyday ALLday. Woman of God. SUPERwoman. Even used to drag race in college.

My pops aka BIG JOHN. Is all about EDUCATION. EDUCATION. EDUCATION. My mother told me & my brother growing up that he could have been President. Cool guy. Extremely FAMILY oriented. Takes all the pics at family events. CROSS COUNTRY RUNNER. POLITICIAN. CFO. KAPPA (smh). Strong BLACK CATHOLIC brother. Always told us that marrying for LOVE was more important then marrying BLACK. “No matter if she Black, White, Blue, or Green….Always marry for LOVE.” Probably, my biggest advisor.

No Relationship: Its really nothing to it. My obsession came in the 1st grade from a girl named……”Wouldn’t You Like To Know”. I can’t call it a first love technically but I did grow to love her over the years. We grew very close in talking about God & relationships. And we grew apart at the same time. Her hair was always on point and her outfits were always poppin. Sometimes however we would be in the same room and never say a word to each other. I simply wasn’t her type. But You gotta respect the game. Because just as I wanted her, another girl somewhere wanted me. All is fair & understandable.

Relationship: The next first love happened a lot faster….i’d say 6 months. She was str8 from the hood. But her character was better then any woman I knew at the time. Probably the goofiest, silliest, funniest person I know. She always made a brother laugh…everyday. She lacked hard work but I figured I could help and motivate her at least for a while. We were together off and on for 3 yrs at least (HigHschool). We wrote mad letters to each other. Ate mad food…spent mad time. The whole Teenage Puppy Love thing.

Ode to 2 First Loves!